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Dear Reader, So many of you wrote me to say you appreciated reading Rebecca’s story last week. (If you missed her letter, you can read it here.) I’m glad it moved you as much as it did me. I had a busy extended weekend with a trip to visit family and celebrate birthdays, so I didn’t get to respond to all of you. I wanted to follow up here, because several of you asked the same thing: “Can you tell me exactly what Rebecca shared with her daughter-in-law?” The answer is no, I can’t. Partly because Rebecca didn’t tell me, though I’m sure she would if I asked her. But more importantly, what resonated with Rebecca and her daughter-in-law isn’t necessarily going to work for you and your family. To make a meaningful shift in a relationship, it needs to come from the heart. Rebecca saw something in one of my videos that made her recognize an area she could improve. She shared it with her daughter-in-law as a way to say, “I know now that I should have done better. I want to do better going forward.” For this to work for you, you need to find something that makes you realize that there’s an area you can improve. It might be a video, or a section of New Grandparent Essentials. It might be in an email that I send, or a grandparenting book. It might be from an article you read, or a podcast you listen to. Something has to give you a prickle of recognition. Once you have that realization, you have to be willing to apologize for past mistakes. You need to commit to changing. And you need to share that with your grandchild’s parents. It might not be easy, and it might not unfold the way you hope. You may need the help of a trained therapist to navigate conversations. Yet it is worth the work. It starts with you being able to reflect on where you could do better. So watch the videos on YouTube or Instagram. Read the blog posts and get the grandparenting books. Keep watching, reading, and reflecting. And when something makes you squirm a bit, it’s a sign that you need to dig a bit deeper to see if there’s a revelation waiting for you. Warm regards, DeeDee Moore | Founder, More Than Grand LLC | morethangrand.com Don't like how your name shows up in the salutation? Need to change your email address? Update your profile |
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We cover topics that matter to grandparents - and parents - such as concrete ways to help new parents, understanding new trends in child care, and meaningful ways to connect the generations. The resources and products we offer foster open communication, encourage healthy boundaries, and equip new grandparents with the tools they need to become a supportive partner to their grandchild's parents. Sign up for our newsletter to find out why grandparenting isn't about spoiling the grandkids anymore. Parents welcome!
Dear Reader, I’m doing something a little different today and sharing a letter I got a couple of weeks ago. It’s an emotional testament to the power of being open to learning and growing. I’m so grateful to Rebecca, who not only shared her experience with me but also gave me permission to share it with you. Here is her story (lightly edited for clarity): “I’ve been a grandparent for almost 9 years. Our daughter became an instant step-parent when she married our precious son-in-law, who...
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